Kink-Positive and Poly-Friendly Therapy
We all have the right to do what we want with our bodies and identities, and to find pleasure, joy, and acceptance in our choices. But none of the education we get in this country prepares us for the nuances of consent and boundaries, understanding the emotional components of sex, and helping us learn how to have fulfilling sex lives (or fulfilling relationships without sex!).
As a kink-positive and poly-friendly therapist, I can support you as you learn more about your own desires and needs and build joyful sexual relationships, whatever your interests. Together we’ll help you understand and develop a positive identity around sexuality in a world that doesn’t welcome who you are. In therapy, we will focus on your journey to a fulfilling sexual and romantic life. I’ll also support you through challenges like struggling with normative cultural messaging, deepening self-knowledge, and facing the unknown.
BDSM- and Kink-positive therapy
“Sexuality is one of the ways that we become enlightened, actually, because it leads us to self-knowledge.”
We will talk about various models of consent and identify what is best for you. We can work through internalized shame and self-judgment. I’m more than just a kink-friendly therapist: I have lived experience in this territory, not just book learning. So I can speak your language and affirm your interests, and I won’t need you to educate me.
Polyamory-friendly therapy
Even though polyamory has become more popular in recent years, it’s still a complex way to build intimate relationships. ENM relationships need a lot of care and attention. As a polyamory therapist, I affirm your right to choose whatever relationship structure works for you within the boundaries of consent and will help you build healthy, caring polyamorous relationships.
I am also a trauma therapist. Trauma so often gets in the way of understanding consent and seeking pleasure. Treating trauma can free you from the pain you still carry so you can learn your own boundaries, wants, and needs when it comes to all types of relationships.
The freedom and self-exploration BDSM offers can be thrilling as well as healing. Too often in the mental health field, these choices have been pathologized. You won’t find that with me.
Instead, you’ll find support in identifying your desires and boundaries and learning how to connect with others to build whatever kind of dynamics you seek. There are so many different roles and models to explore as you find your identity in the BDSM/kink community.